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Part of being a parent is learning ...
... the difference between influense and control, and that education, not censorship, offers the best protection to your child.

>> Even ONE porn site viewed by my child is unacceptable.

It appears you have at least one child. I have three, myself. (One young adult, one teen, one adolescent). Threats to their well-being are everywhere. Matches, automobiles, smoking, alcohol, ... porn. Why don't we outlaw these things? Because they have legitimate use among adults. Even porn. Responsibility for teaching this to kids falls to the parent(s).

Have you talked to your kid(s) about the dangers of matches? Have you explained why they can be used by grownups and not by children? Do they know what to do (and what not to do) when they come across them? Did you know that combined with proper supervision, the same approach will help them deal with porn?

I don't know how old your child is, but if they are old enough to use the internet, I suggest that you start having age-appropriate conversations with them about sex, nudity, morals, and other sensitive but important topics.

Notice I said 'conversations', not a lecture. Make it a two-way street and over time you will do two important things; teach them to be open and honest with you, and you will learn how much they have already know, or think they know.

Kids are not pets to be kept on a leash, they are people learning how to interact with their world. You may not be able to control their actions elsewhere, but you can influence them tremendously. Your control will end someday. Your influence may well last their lifetime.

I am sick to death of people who think we should amend the Constitution to suit their own wants.
Posted by: NotBornYesterday   Posted on: 03/27/07 You are currently: a Guest | Members login | Terms of Use
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The children!!!! Won't someone please think of the children!!!!!  James T. Kirk | 03/22/07
Hey ... Johnny ...  OButterball | 03/22/07
Sad, but true. (nt)  Henry Miller | 03/22/07
The children!!!! Won't someone please think of the children!!!!!  vernsmx@... | 03/22/07
And that's a problem?  JDThompson | 03/22/07
re: And that's a problem?  cbradshaw@... | 03/25/07
Yes! Think Of the kids this way...  Riphly_z | 03/27/07
Oh my, Common Sense wins?  No_Ax_to_Grind | 03/22/07
Common Sense is very uncommon  magcomment | 03/22/07
re: Common Sense is very uncommon  cbradshaw@... | 03/25/07
According to the tests, filters only work part of the time...  JohnBoyTheGreat | 03/26/07
true!  boilers78 | 03/26/07
Part of being a parent is learning ...  NotBornYesterday | 03/27/07
Argh, I meant ...  NotBornYesterday | 03/27/07
Amen! Constitutional Amendments are a LAST resort.  Joel R | 03/29/07
About dang time too!!  shawkins | 03/22/07
re: About dang time too!!  cbradshaw@... | 03/25/07
Judge rules Net porn law unconstitutional  Loverock Davidson | 03/22/07
Domain Names  wmelcher@... | 03/22/07
Uh... yeah...  James T. Kirk | 03/22/07
TLDs  FelisLachesis | 03/22/07
.xxx and .sex TLD's considered 'dangerous'  XXXLDOG | 03/22/07
That's actually already a proposal.  Raymond Danner | 03/22/07
the bigger problem  XXXLDOG | 03/22/07
Why not flip it?  Joel R | 03/23/07
That's the most common sense I've seen  Zolar | 03/26/07
Thanks! (NT)  Joel R | 03/27/07
Let's just hope....  Alysonh | 03/22/07
Lazy parents  petteyg359 | 03/22/07
Actually, you're dead wrong  Dr_Zinj | 03/22/07
Dead Wrong?  justanitguy | 03/23/07
Absolutely not wrong  gettinoriginal2@... | 03/23/07
definition of involvement  conspicuouschick | 03/23/07
actually, I also think you are wrong,  legalista | 03/23/07
while statistically true...  shraven | 03/26/07
RE: Lazy Parents  rayhawk | 03/22/07
Laziness? Or not enough time?  Joel R | 03/23/07
Another waste of taxpayer monies  blehr@... | 03/22/07
Parental Controls  rayhawk | 03/22/07
It seems we dont need a term of reelection  not of this world | 03/24/07
My library  KWierso | 03/26/07
It's all based on the unproven assumption...  kevin.cline@... | 03/22/07
True, true.  Dr_Zinj | 03/22/07
Of course thats assuming they dont....  icaticus | 03/23/07
One doesn't "run across" such things  kevin.cline@... | 03/26/07
Same logic used by Dr. Frederic Wertham  Joel R | 03/27/07
Same ?logic? used by Dr. Frederic Wertham  Joel R | 03/27/07
Why do you advocate narrow-mindedness?  smdunn | 03/28/07
What "devastating effects"?  gordon@... | 03/22/07
i was wondering the same thing  susan28 | 03/22/07
To list all devastating effects would require a book...  5th Regimental Combat Team | 03/24/07
re: To list all devastating effects  cbradshaw@... | 03/25/07
uhh, like the father deviant Freud?  shraven | 03/26/07
Same ?logic? used by Dr. Frederic Wertham?  Joel R | 03/27/07
Best I can figure is  Zolar | 03/26/07
The best filter  Harrim | 03/22/07
Maybe some common sense approach....  gclifton@... | 03/22/07
common sense  dr_who@... | 03/23/07
Time to Grab Our Country Back  pcullinan | 03/22/07
Are you tired of....  icaticus | 03/23/07
Actually, the Puritans didn?t leave to escape persecution.  Joel R | 03/29/07
You are aware that the ACLU has DEFENDED Christians, right?  Joel R | 03/29/07
Just a show to hide behind the real agenda  RRobert03 | 03/29/07
What harm? Name the actual harm that they?ve done?  Joel R | 03/29/07
The list is seemingly endless  RRobert03 | 03/30/07
Oh, please. And here I actually respected you.  Joel R | 03/30/07
ACLU and the harm they cause...  smdunn | 03/30/07
Oh please, version 2.0.  Joel R | 03/30/07
May the truth set you free...  smdunn | 03/31/07
laws protecting other laws  deviantdecode | 03/22/07
I Wholeheartedly Agree!  Zolar | 03/26/07
13? Try 10....  Henry Miller | 03/22/07
Uh, this was supposed to be a reply to Loverock's post above... (nt)  Henry Miller | 03/22/07
Where do violent kids come from...  Cyber_Spy | 03/23/07
Where do violent kids come from...  deviantdecode | 03/23/07
COPA/CIPA?  dhagey | 03/23/07
Don't forget COPPA!  Joel R | 03/23/07
Are our Judges just plain f.....g stupid or  Gray Eagle | 03/23/07
backatcha  shraven | 03/26/07
If you don't like it, don't look at it  Zolar | 03/26/07
Heh,..  KWierso | 03/26/07
Parenting Your Child  linbegone | 03/24/07
Excellent post!  Zolar | 03/26/07
Pornography is not speech but perversion  RRobert03 | 03/26/07
Thank you for your opinion...  cohrssw | 03/26/07
Your welcome...  RRobert03 | 03/27/07
Actually, the opposite seems to be the case.  Joel R | 03/27/07
Studies and myths  RRobert03 | 03/28/07
Myths indeed!  Joel R | 03/29/07
Apparent discrepancies with valid answers  RRobert03 | 03/29/07
ACTUAL discrepancies and contradictions with NO valid answers.  Joel R | 03/29/07
I must be tired today happy  RRobert03 | 03/30/07
You?re not even going to take a stab at the ten-year discrepancy?  Joel R | 03/30/07
Hmmm...  Zolar | 03/26/07
Mmmh...  RRobert03 | 03/27/07
God's will is that we have freedom ...  NotBornYesterday | 03/27/07
Freedom within God's boundries  RRobert03 | 03/27/07
Not at all  NotBornYesterday | 03/28/07
Does the Hoover Institution mention THESE John Adams quotes?  Joel R | 03/27/07
Real Christians  RRobert03 | 03/28/07
Porn  auntiemame1918 | 03/28/07
I have no problems with Christianity.  Joel R | 03/28/07
I have no personal problems with non-Christians  RRobert03 | 03/28/07
Re: non-Christians.  Joel R | 03/29/07
Peace  RRobert03 | 03/30/07
This must be some new definition of ?peace? I was previously unaware of.  Joel R | 03/30/07
The real danger...  kevin.cline@... | 03/26/07
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